Monday, September 25, 2006

Caught In The Blogosphere

You tell someone you are a Mommyblogger and they roll their eyes. Oh, one of those, said with disdain. It sounds almost as bad as ‘tweens’, or some other clever marketing strategy.
Is that all this is? Is that all mothers are these days? One of the biggest target marketing groups?

There are women out there breaking (smashing) every myth of what it means to be a mother. At the same time, you got to wonder if some of us are unconsciously exploiting ourselves and our children.

However, it must be said that mothers have this unique forum for expression that was not available a few years ago; to let our voices be heard (and they are), to gain support from each other, other mothers like us, and it is tremendous.

I really don’t consider myself a ‘mommyblogger.’ I despise the term and try to go beyond the stigma in my writing. I mean, I do have other interests than my child and being a Mom. right? I would think so.

When I started my blog, (and earlier on Mama Says) I immediately made it clear that there will be no pictures of my child or anyone else’s, and that I would keep some anonymity-as much as possible- concerning myself and my daughter. It’s about the writing and always has been. The Girl is definitely a part of that, just as motherhood itself is. Plus, I just feel weird about posting pictures of my kid on the Internet. I always felt that was going a bit too far; as if I were crossing some sort of boundary; that is was a violation of …something.

So what of the next generation, our children? This generation who has their entire lives on display? This is the generation of the blogosphere. Their lives are public; privacy is no longer a boundary. My own child is of this generation.

Every generation has to rebel against the one before them. That’s just how it goes, it’s their job. How will this one show their rebellion? The children of the...Blogosphere.
Will they be super private individuals? Will they be more conservative than we could ever imagine, in more ways than one? Even prudish? In extensive therapy?
I could be totally wrong, but that backlash is coming with a rebel yell, though how it will sound remains to be seen.


  1. I understand! I don't publish my children or husband's names or pictures. I promised my husband that when I started the blog. I might tell something funny regarding them but for the most part I try to be respectful. I also try to balance out my postings maybe something about my kids, then next something about just me then it could be a funny news story or serious matter. I love my kids but they were never intended to be the sole subject of my blog.

  2. I do publish WonderBaby's picture, but no names. i gave it a lot of thought when I first started blogging, and decided that it wasn't (to me) all that different from trotting her about out in public in any other way. I'll revisit the issue as she gets older. And if I thought that there was any threat to her privacy... fuggedaboutit.

    But it's a sensitive issue. I totally get why people decide to not do so.

  3. Wow... interesting point - not sure how to take it since the last week of blogging has basically been about my daughter. She knows what I've written and I think it actually affirms to her that I care about her life and she's important enough to me to be a major subject on my blog. I don't demean her at all or shame her by displaying her shortcomings.

    Actually I think all my kids appreciate the spotlight in my blog every now and then since they know that it has become a special part of my life and THEY are the MOST important part of my life, so they feel like they're a part of that too. I don't mind being called a "Mommy Blogger."

    I also agree with "Her Bad Mother" - the kids are known in the neighborhood, in year books, in public places, at church, etc. But to each her own.

    Anyway thanks for that food for thought. I'll talk to my kids about it and see what they think. Thanks for stopping by.

  4. You make a great point about being mor than "just" a mommyblogger. It's so important as women to blog more dynamically, including our children but not relying on them to carry the thing, and not displaying too much of their personal details.

    I'm with you, no photos. The internet is international, unlike your neighborhood, and anything can happen. As for being and staying anonymous, good luck. My anonymity lasted about a year and I was outed! I'm now merely pseudonymous.

  5. Interesting thoughts. I do post pictures of my kids, and I do write a lot about them - mostly funny stories, and some of my struggles with parenting. But you have some thought-provoking ideas. I enjoyed your insight.