Saturday, June 24, 2006

Mother Mary




I am not an overtly religious person. In fact, I don’t think I am very religious at all, and really never have been.


My daughter and I pass her nearly everyday on our regular walking route.
This Statue, this Mother, this Goddess.

I’ve lost track how many times we’ve gone past her, a quiet, solid presence, held in stone.

Every time, she holds my interest.
Every time, I cannot help but look upon her in acknowledgment, in respect.

Apparently, my daughter thinks so too. Apparently, she knows Mother Mary well-
On more than one occasion, while walking alongside me, she’ll veer into the alcove of Mary; bow down to sniff the flowers (‘fow-fow’s), her hand delicately cupping the petals. She then straightens, gazes shyly at Mother Mary, shifts a little so she is standing in front of her and begins a conversation with the Holy Mother in her current baby jabber.

When she is done, she comes over to me, takes my hand, and we continue our walk.

I always wonder what she’s saying to Mother Mary.

…And if anything is being said back to her…

Tuesday, June 20, 2006

Mama Reads Occasionally

  • Mother Shock, Andrea Buchanan: Makes the correlation between culture shock and how it feels becoming a mother. Outstanding, well written, highly insightful, deeply empathetic writing. Suggested by MamaAme
  • The Price Of Motherhood, Ann Crittenden: This is such a validating book because it outlines the inequalities, discrepancies and economic hardships that goes, unfortunately, with mother work. Suggested by MamaAme
  • The Motherhood Manifesto, Joan Blades and Kristin Rowe-Finkbeiner: This book covers everything American women have been trying to get for years: Maternity leave,(decent) Childcare, Flexible work and decent wages, Healthcare, all the biggies one would think we'd already have by now. This book not only reports on the situation, but offers real solutions to a real problem in America. Well researched, well formatted, an essential for all mothers. Suggested by Kris.
  • Shop Girl, Steve Martin: Anything Steve Martin writes is excellent. He is a genius. He is frequently seen in The New Yorker.
  • Ariel
  • The Bell Jar
  • Letters Home
  • Journals, Sylvia Plath
  • Virginia Woolf Journals
  • The Diaries of Anais Nin
  • Delta of Venus
  • Women of the Beat Generation, Brenda Knight
  • It's The Little Things, Lena Williams: Recently read by Kris. Engaging, Witty and Eye-opening.
  • Linda Goodman's Love Signs; Sun Signs: Classics of the Astrological world, indispensable.
  • Venus Envy: A History of Cosmetic Surgery, Elizabeth Haiken: This is great if you have the stomach for it. Ever wonder how cosmetic surgery started? How it became so mainstream? The history behind it is so fascinating-You want to turn away in disgust, but you have to sneak in just one more peek.
  • Lady Chatterley's Lover, D.H. Lawrence: One of the greatest books ever. It was banned in the '60s and was the subject of a much publicized 'obscenity trial' at the Old Bailey. Beautifully written, flawless story.
  • Wicked, Gregory Maguire
  • Tender Is The Night, F. Scott Fitzgerald
  • Averno, Louise Gluck
  • The Hot Zone, Richard Preston: Freaked me out the first time I read it.
  • French Lieutanant's Woman, John Fowles
  • Painted Shadow: The Life of Vivienne Eliot, First Wife of T.S. Eliot, Carole Seymore-Jones: I am just beginning to read this, and it is mind blowing!!!

I'll Finish These...Someday

  • Mozart's Women: His Family, Friends, His Music; Jane Glover
  • Painted Shadow: The Life of Vivienne Eliot, First Wife of T.S. Eliot; Carole Seymore-Jones.
  • Hot and Bothered; Annie Downey: I am actually in the midst of reading this fantastic book. Will take me awhile to finish...
  • Confessions Of An Ugly Stepsister; Gregory Maguire: I love his books. I got hooked with Wicked. Fully Devour-able.
Update: have finished Hot and Bothered! With the help of a little insomnia.... November 2006)

Thursday, June 01, 2006

Poem: The Mystery

This can also be found in MotherVerse, Issue #6, Spring '07


The Mystery


The boy in dreams
Is my son

My daughter's brother
Whom she will never know

And the son of her father
Who knows neither.

So it is.

The boy in the dreams
Is young-

What I'd imagine him to be:
Only 4 or 3.

He is my son
I must give up.

So it was.

The boy in the dreams
He comes without animosity or aversion-
Regret not felt from either side.

He is my son
I must always give up to the mystery.

So it will be.

Halloween 2005